Molly Toomey, LCSW
counselor & clinical social worker
counseling that will move you
from chaos & uncertainty
to clarity & connection.
I'm a U.S.-licensed clinical social worker, international counselor, and American immigrant to Germany. I help people gain insight on their past and present, break free of patterns that don't serve them, enjoy better relationships and greater self-worth, and step into the life they want.Queer-affirming, trauma-informed, radically relational counseling—online wherever you are.
what brings you here
it's time for a change
Are you navigating big feelings, big questions, or big life transitions? Struggling to make sense of who you are or what you want, or to move forward from a painful past?Maybe you're weighed down by the anxiety, the overwhelm, the disconnection and isolation. Yearning to feel safe, secure, accepted, and loved by others (and yourself). Maybe you're ready to "do the work", to get un-stuck and move toward feeling better, but whatever you've tried hasn't helped—or you don't even know where to begin.On top of it all, you're done with feeling unseen, misunderstood, or judged by therapists for who you are and how you live and love.You need a fresh approach, a safer space, and some good company for the journey.
welcome
hi there, I'm Molly
I'm an American therapist, international counselor, and social worker living in Germany. I offer warm, affirming care for queer and trans folks, neurodivergent folks, immigrants and cultural outsiders, and others who live and love outside the box.As a queer, neurodivergent person and immigrant, I've walked that non-traditional path myself. I know personally how transformative it is to be deeply understood and connected. Over the years, I've accompanied hundreds of people on their own journeys toward feeling happier, safer, more connected and whole. I'd love to walk that path with you as well.
the essentials
what to expect
I'm here to help you get out of survival mode and into your life. Here's what you need to know:
Individual counseling (1-on-1) for adults ages 18+
Specializations: gender & sexual identity, migration & cultural identity, moving forward after trauma
50-minute sessions weekly
Online sessions from the comfort of your own home
Sessions in English (German and Spanish also possible)
I've had the honor of helping hundreds of people over the years. People I've worked with have expressed feeling:
More clarity on their problems and possible solutions
Deeply understood and cared for
Greater self-acceptance, pride in their identities
More confident and secure in their lives and relationships
More able to voice their wants and needs
More stable and safer with themselves
Able to handle deep sadness, stress, and anxiety in healthier ways
More able to ask for help and to receive care
Calmer, happier, "better"
I'd love to help you too! Book a free, confidential 30-minute call and we can see if we're a good fit.
how I work
a different approach
I'm not your old-school talk therapist.My therapeutic approach is based on relational and psychodynamic therapy. It requires vulnerability, authenticity, collaboration, and really showing up—both counselor and client!This approach is all about healing through connection. It starts with building a genuine, trusting alliance with me where you feel safe enough to dig into the tough stuff at your own pace. We'll explore past and present relationships and build a blueprint for safety and more fulfilling relationships with others and with yourself—starting in the here-and-now, in the therapy room.I am affirming of your diverse identities and life experiences, from gender and sexuality to neurodiversity to culture.I'm also trauma-informed. I prioritize creating a safe and collaborative environment in session, with transparency and respect for your boundaries. We move at your pace.I think and work systemically. Your wellbeing is not just thoughts and feelings inside a body! It's affected by the systems we move through, the laws governing us, our physical wellness, society, culture, finances, oppressions. I'm not afraid to bring the "big picture" into the therapy room.Your unique identities are strengths, not deficits! We'll explore the strengths and wisdom you already have, figure out the gaps, and expand your mental health toolbox.
what I offer
services
I offer different services to help you move toward your goals—regardless of where you live.
specializations
support tailored to your needs
migration & culture
immigrant/expat life
cultural identity (first-gen immigrants, children of immigrants, bilingual, bicultural)cultural adjustment & culture shockmigration stresslife & identity as a foreigner or cultural minoritymigrating with childrenintercultural relationships
gender, sexual & relationship diversity
LGBTQIA+ & beyond
gender & sexual identities outside the mainstreamcoming outself-acceptance, internalized homophobia/transphobiacoping with the social/political climatenavigating relationships & familyalternative relationship structuresparenting an LGBTQ+ child
neurodiversity
navigating a neurodivergent life
life & relationships when ADHD/AuDHD, autistic, bipolar, etc.making sense of your identity after a diagnosis or self-diagnosiscoping & adapting to environments that don't adapt to youparenting a neurodivergent childself-acceptancecommunity & belonging
You might find yourself reflected in one of my specialties—but you might not, or maybe you're not sure. And that's okay! These are just a few big topics I work with, and it doesn't capture how complex and individual each person's experiences are.The most important things are:
Do we connect?
And am I the right resource for your needs and goals right now?The best way to find out is to get on an intro call with me.
booking
book a free intro call
I offer a free introductory call to help determine if we're a good fit.We'll have 30 minutes to chat confidentially about what brought you here and how I can best help you, and I'll answer any questions you have.Book your call easily:
Message me through my website
Book an appointment yourself on my calendar through my therapist profile on It's Complicated
FAQ
frequently asked questions
I'll answer all your questions about my qualifications, services, insurance, fees, policies, and how to get started.
hope to see you soon!
Contact
send me a message
Note: I do not monitor my email consistently and am not a crisis support resource!
If you're having an emergency and need help now, please contact your local emergency service or national crisis hotline. Take care.
welcome
nice to meet you!
Hi! I'm Molly (they/them), queer American therapist and Licensed Clinical Social Worker now based in Germany. I've been in the business of helping people since 2010.I've worked with people of all ages from wildly diverse communities in multiple cities, countries, and languages. Along the way, I've gained knowledge, skills, and lessons learned from many sources: intensive master's-level clinical training and continuing education, hands-on learning and supervision, lived experience and community wisdom, and my own therapy.My approach draws from relational and psychodynamic therapy and a systemic, intersectional lens: I believe that our relationships and the systems we're in shape how we live and love, and that deep, genuine, attuned connection helps us heal from relational wounds and live our most authentic, fulfilling lives. (More on this here.)I am guided by my mission and values, my personal and professional journey, and my lived experience.I've personally experienced the transformative power of therapeutic connection, both as a therapist and as a client, and I am deeply grateful to each client who's decided to share their world with me over the years. I hope you'll consider doing the same!
commitments
my mission & values
My mission is to provide affirming, accessible, trauma-informed mental health support to those who live or love alternatively—to the communities who are too often misunderstood, unseen, or underserved by traditional mental health professionals.My background is in community mental health—bringing psychological and social support to the people who need it the most, but struggle the most to access it. I have spent years focused on making comprehensive mental health services more accessible and relatable for people who would otherwise not be able to access care or who had had negative experiences with helping systems. I came from those communities and I remain dedicated to them.I aim to disrupt the usual therapist/client dynamics. I work holistically and relationally, not authoritatively. I prioritize human dignity, autonomy, and connection.I am driven to provide support that is queer- and trans-affirming, neuro-affirming, kink-affirming, and sex-positive. To me, being affirming is an active process. It's recognizing and respecting my clients' identities and autonomy. It's actively working to create an inviting, supportive space for them to be their full selves without judgment while gently dismantling internalized shame and stigma. It also means acknowledging systemic injustices, pathologizing, and erasure, and using my platform to advocate.Beyond just affirming care, I am committed to competent care. I have worked in many capacities with folks of diverse identities, people facing difficult life situations and systemic barriers and injustice, and I completed a clinical social work program dedicated to exactly this. I regularly pursue training and education to ensure my approach is informed, ethical, and up-to-date. Click here for an overview of my education, training, and experience, from mental health to social justice.I prioritize meeting people where they're at and valuing them as equals. I respect you and see you as the expert on your own life. I'll challenge you, while respecting your boundaries and the pace you move at. It is essential to me to work collaboratively—alongside you, not above you.While I've gained so much from my formal education and professional training, I also deeply value lived experience as a source of wisdom—yours as well as mine.
how I got here
my story
My drive to work in mental health blossomed out of need. I grew up in the U.S. in a low-income family, a queer, gender-confused kid with undiagnosed neurodivergence and an inclination toward alternative lifestyle practices. I quickly realized that the world was not built for people like me, but I was driven to try to change that.After college, I worked in the world of sex education and youth development until shifting to mental health work. I pursued a master's degree in clinical social work at Smith College School for Social Work, where I studied psychodynamic psychotherapy with a social justice lens and completed nearly 2,000 hours of supervised clinical experience. I then dedicated myself to serving low-income, immigrant and LGBTQ+ communities as an outpatient therapist and social worker. (Click here for an overview of my education, training, and experience, from mental health work to sexual health counseling and education.)Community mental health demands that you face the realities of injustice affecting the most vulnerable in society, and that you play every helping role: therapist, social worker, care coordinator, mediator, community organizer, fierce advocate and ally. Making mental health support more accessible, relatable, and human became part of my fight for social justice.I moved from the U.S. to Germany in 2021. As an immigrant, foreign language speaker, and queer person in Germany, I was an outsider on many levels. It was so difficult to find mental health care in my language with a cultural lens that I could relate to. I also wanted to continue helping my communities back home.I decided to do something about it. I opened my private practice in counseling and now help people in both the U.S. and Germany to work toward their goals with me as their counselor, collaborator, and co-conspirator in healing and growth.
lived experience
a personal connection to my work
I'm an outsider myself. I'm an immigrant, queer, they/them, neurodivergent, and am no stranger to alternative lifestyles and relationships. I understand what it's like to be the odd one out, to feel the pressure of expectations from society, culture, family, religion, to hit up against professional and educational and political and legal barriers to being you.Personally and professionally, I also know how difficult it is to find mental health providers who are both comfortable and competent in working with folks outside the mainstream, and the awkwardness and frustration of having to explain your "unusual" identities or practices to your therapist—especially in a different country or a foreign language. I get how hard it can be to connect and (let yourself) be seen.I also know how liberating and joyous it is to feel seen, accepted, respected, and supported. If you're ready to start your own journey toward greater connection and wholeness, I'd be honored to join you.
now let's get personal
a little more about me
My top hobby is specialty coffee. Give me a gooseneck temp kettle and the funkiest beans you got and let's caffeinate.I love goth music and subculture—and spooky artwork. Show me your favorite dark art!I got into tarot reading and alternative personal practices as a child, and doing daily readings has become an important ritual for self-care and self-reflection. I'm a little witchy and I embrace clients who are a little woo, too.I travel as much and as cheaply as possible. I love train travel.I enjoy DIY and am learning to make chainmaille jewelry.My wardrobe is 99% black and 1% leopard print or Barbie. (You've been warned!)
theoretical deep-dive
a relational approach
What's hurt in relationship, heals in relationship.Humans are wired for connection. Connecting, being in relationship with others, allows us to get the support we need, to co-regulate, to move through difficult emotions and isolation and distress and toward healing. And by "relationships," I mean all sorts! Our relationships with our caregivers in childhood; relationships with family, friends, partners; our relationship with ourselves, how we see ourselves, talk to ourselves, treat ourselves. When we build deep emotional bonds with our caregivers as children, we develop mental blueprints for how the world works that we carry into adulthood—blueprints that tell us what relationships can or should look like, what is reasonable to expect from others, how to interpret others' behaviors, how to get our needs met and protect ourselves from pain or abandonment, and so on.People who were neglected, abused or chronically let down by their caregivers or important figures in their lives can struggle more to feel safe and whole when they're in relationship with others, or to experience relationships that are nourishing for them. People who must struggle to live as their authentic selves due to social norms, family or cultural pressures, or oppressive religious or political systems can also have a difficult time feeling safe and developing trusting relationships with others or with themselves. Some folks have not yet experienced feeling seen and accepted unconditionally.So how does relational work help folks get un-stuck, feel better, connect, and heal?
A relational approach says that healing happens through experiences of safer, healthier, more secure attachment and connection—and the therapeutic relationship is what drives this healing.So relational work isn't about analyzing and changing your thoughts and behaviors from the top-down—it's about creating a space to experience something different.As someone who works relationally, I'm not trying to fix something broken inside you. (P.S. You aren't broken!) I'm focused on building trust over time to create a warm, accepting space where we can explore thoughts, feelings, and patterns and experiment with new ways of relating that better serve you.So what would that look like in practice?
In our counseling sessions, we might be:
reflecting on old patterns and painful past experiences where you were neglected or let down in important relationships ("attachment wounds", complex/relational trauma)
observing what's happening right now in the room, approaching it with curiosity rather than judgment, and exploring where else these dynamics might play out in your life
inviting you to share your genuine feelings on something—perhaps stepping in to share my own authentic reaction—and sitting with that vulnerability together
reexamining a situation through a lens of curiosity and empathy rather than judgment
test-driving a new approach to communicating or resolving conflict in the outside world
staying present to work through a conflict or rupture between us, live in session
There will inevitably be "ruptures" between us (misunderstanding, misattunement, conflict, feeling angry or frustrated or let down)—and that is part of the process. We're both human! And we're doing the work when we show up again and allow for the opportunity for a "repair".I am trained psychodynamically, so I look to the past and to the unconscious for information and insight on the hows and whys. To avoid getting stuck in reflecting and ruminating, I also ground us in the here-and-now and focus on creating new experiences in the present that help your brain re-wire itself for healthy, safer relationships.Finally, relational work means joining you as a collaborator rather than an authority—and this means bringing myself and my personality into the work too. I am not a "blank slate", and I will show up more fully in session than traditional talk therapists or analysts. Laughing, crying, cursing—we're in this together!All feelings are welcome.
what I offer
services
I offer the following services for adults ages 18+:
Connecticut, USA: Psychotherapy
Psychotherapy is available to residents of Connecticut, where I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW license #15933).Germany & international: Psychological counseling
For residents of Germany and many other countries worldwide, I offer psychological counseling, which is a supportive, non-clinical service.
Read more about these services and which one is right for you in the FAQs, or book a call to discuss.
get answers
frequently asked questions:therapy / clinical social workfor clients in Connecticut, USA
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Qualifications
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Insurance, Fees, Policies
Privacy
How To Get Started
Additional Services
FAQ: qualifications
What qualifies you to do counseling/therapy?
A combination of higher education, professional development, experiential learning, supervision, and years of helping hundreds of people in my communities! I completed a master's degree at Smith College School for Social Work, specializing in clinical social work—a branch of social work that focuses on treats mental health and wellness holistically, addressing not just psychological and emotional challenges, but also bigger-picture barriers and oppressions. Through coursework and nearly 2,000 hours of clinical internships, I learned and practiced trauma-informed psychotherapy, counseling, and crisis intervention with adults and teens, one-on-one and in groups. After graduating, I completed well over 3,500 hours of supervised clinical social work in my communities, passed the licensing exams, and gained initial and advanced licensure as a clinical social worker.How long have you been doing this for?
I've been serving my communities in many different ways since 2010. I have nearly a decade of experience in the field of social work and psychotherapy. I have also worked in sexual health counseling and education, community outreach, and social justice work including immigrant rights and reproductive rights. Read more about my work history here.Are you licensed/accredited?
Yes! I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in the state of Connecticut (CT license #15933). I previously held a clinical social work license in Massachusetts, where I lived for years before moving back to my home state of Connecticut. I also have foreign accreditation—in Germany, I am a state-accredited social worker. (I do counseling and social work with residents of Germany and am not a licensed psychotherapist there.) My credentials in each country are outlined here.
FAQ: counseling/therapy
Who should do online counseling/therapy?
Online therapy is a wonderful option for talking through difficult experiences past and present, reflecting, building insight, learning and practicing new skills, and figuring out how to get out of unhelpful patterns and move toward the life you want to be living—with the support of a trained, experienced, licensed professional. It's private and convenient, too—you can get support without even leaving your couch!Who should not do online therapy?
Online therapy is not the right service for you if you're in crisis and need help right now, or you need help with immediate safety and stabilization—for example, if you're looking for a 24/7 support resource, or if you're in an active domestic violence situation. In those situations, safety is the first priority. If you're in crisis, please seek support immediately from your local crisis services so that you can get help quickly and be referred to other services that can help. You can also ask your primary care physician (Hausarzt/Hausärztin in Germany) if you aren't sure which service is most appropriate for you.Is our work together confidential and private?
Yes! Counseling with me is confidential, meaning I won't share information about you with someone else (unless you consent to it). There are very few exceptions to this, including serious concern for your safety or someone else's and legal orders related to serious crimes. Our sessions are not recorded. I also keep your personal information private and protected, in compliance with HIPAA law. You'll find more information on privacy and confidentiality below.What ages do you work with?
I work with adults ages 18+. Young adults and parents welcome!Do you do couples/relationship counseling or groups?
I only work with individuals at this time. I may do groups in 2026—let me know if you're interested in a specific theme!What languages do you speak?
I'm a native English speaker, but we can also do counseling in Spanish. I've done counseling, therapy, education, and outreach with many Latinx and Spanish-speaking people.How do we meet online?
We'll use a free, secure, confidential video-calling platform to meet. I send you the link before the session, you click it, and we're in a private meeting! No apps or sign-ups needed.Can we meet in person instead?
Unfortunately I live in Germany right now, so if you live in Connecticut, we can only meet online. (If you do live in Germany or elsewhere outside the U.S., we can still work together! Click here for the FAQs page for German and international folks.How long will we meet for?
We will meet for about 55 minutes long, which includes our session time plus a few minutes to schedule the next session.How often will we meet?
I generally meet with clients weekly, and we meet longer-term—relational work takes time.When are you available to meet?
I'm generally available on weekdays from 4:00 AM until 2:00 PM. (Teachers, health care professionals, students—I might be a good fit for your schedule!) I can't meet outside of those times because I live in a different time zone right now.
FAQ: insurance, fees, policies
Do you work with insurance?
No, I am private pay only.Are there any benefits to not using insurance for mental health support?
Yes, there are many! More privacy—there's no reporting, so insurance companies won't see your most sensitive information, and you won't have a diagnosis in your health records forever. No permission needed—you don't need to wait for approval from a company to start taking care of your mental health; no external limits on how long you can be in counseling. More flexibility—you aren't limited to the specific therapy modalities that insurance covers. And, importantly: no need to assign you a diagnosis or create a permanent record of an "illness" or private information. This may be especially important for LGBTQIA+ folks, immigrants, and others seeking support in the current political climate.How much does it cost to do counseling with you? What are your fees?
My standard rate is $175 for one 50-minute session. As a trained clinical social worker, I also do consultations as needed in order to best help you or your family—these are pro-rated. Read more about my fees here.I can't afford your standard fee. Do you offer a sliding scale/reduced rate?
Yes! Please click here for the most up-to-date information on sliding fee scale options.How do I pay for sessions? When?
You can pay by card online through Stripe. Payment for each scheduled session must be received before the start of the session. You'll receive an invoice from me in advance of each session with all the info. Easy!What is your cancellation policy?
Please contact me at least 24 hours before our scheduled session to cancel or reschedule, and your payment will be applied to the next session. If you cancel with less than 24 hours before the session, the fee is the cost of the session. But—we're all human! If there is an emergency or you're very sick, please contact me before the session starts and I may waive the fee or reschedule with you at my discretion.How about refunds?
All of my services are non-refundable. You'll find more info on this in the consent forms I'll send you.
FAQ: privacy
I'm concerned about privacy, especially online. How do you protect my personal information?
Privacy and protection of personal information is very important to me both personally and professionally. As mentioned: no reporting to health insurance companies or third parties. I follow HIPAA data protection laws to ensure that sensitive information is protected, meaning that I use HIPAA-compliant platforms for sharing and storing private health information, and you are made aware of the risks of communicating in other ways. I also try to minimize the use of electronic health record software to manage clients' personal information in order to minimize the risk of security breaches and keep your information out of companies' hands. I keep paper progress notes. I do not use AI for anything counseling-related.What is HIPAA?
The Health Insurance Portability Accountability Act (HIPAA) is a federal law that protects the privacy and security of individuals' private health information. Because I am based in Germany, I also comply with the General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR), which is a data protection law for the EU. You'll find more information on all of this in the consent forms.What about video-calls and emails?
The video-conferencing and email platforms I use are encrypted and HIPAA-compliant also, but there is always some risk to sharing sensitive information online.
FAQ: how to get started
How can I start working with you?
It starts with a free introductory call: first you book a 30-minute intro call here, then we meet and see if we're a good fit. We can schedule our first counseling session at the end of that call if you're ready, or you can think about it and follow up with me. If you choose to move forward with me, I'll send you a form to fill out online and the invoice. Then we meet!How do I book this free intro call?
Easily! Click here for all your options—you can message me on the website or email me. Just tell me 3 dates and times you'd be available to chat and I'll write you back to confirm. You can also reach out to me through my other online profiles, like Psychology Today, OutCare (directory for LGBTQ-affirming providers), and Inclusive Therapists.I need help right now though. What do I do?
I am not a crisis provider but I want you to get help! If you're having an emergency or need help immediately, please call your local mental health crisis team or emergency services (dial 911). Please stay safe.Where else can I find you online?
Come visit me at my main website, mollytoomey.com, or on Psychology Today, OutCare (directory for LGBTQ-affirming providers), or Inclusive Therapists. See you there!
FAQ: additional services
Besides counseling, do you offer other services?
Yes! Sometimes I offer community trainings/workshops. You can find an overview of all of my services at mollytoomey.com. I also offer support for people in the U.S. who are interested in moving to Germany. I went through this experience myself and decided to use my lessons learned to help others! I specialize in mental health professionals (social workers, therapists, counselors) as well as LGBTQIA+ folks looking to leave the U.S. Read more here.I'm interested in something you aren't currently offering. Can I contact you anyway?
Please do! My skills and knowledge extend beyond what I have listed on this website, and I am always interested in new ventures and challenges. If I can't provide what you're looking for or I'm not the best fit, I'll do my best to refer you to someone who is.
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frequently asked questions:counselingfor clients in Germany & internationally
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Qualifications
Counseling
Insurance, Fees, Policies
Privacy
How To Get Started
Additional Services
Legal Note
FAQ: qualifications
What qualifies you to do counseling?
A combination of higher education, professional development, experiential learning, supervision, and years of helping hundreds of people in my communities! I completed a master's degree at Smith College School for Social Work, specializing in clinical social work—a branch of social work that focuses on treats mental health and wellness holistically, addressing not just psychological and emotional challenges, but also bigger-picture barriers and oppressions. Through coursework and nearly 2,000 hours of clinical internships, I learned and practiced trauma-informed psychotherapy, counseling, and crisis intervention with adults and teens, one-on-one and in groups. After graduating, I completed well over 3,500 hours of supervised clinical social work in my communities, passed the licensing exams, and gained initial and advanced licensure as a clinical social worker.How long have you been doing this for?
I've been serving my communities in many different ways since 2010. I have nearly a decade of experience in the field of social work and psychotherapy. I have also worked in sexual health counseling and education, community outreach, and social justice work including immigrant rights and reproductive rights. Read more about my work history here.Are you licensed/accredited?
Yes! I am state-recognized as a social worker in two countries, Germany and the USA. In the U.S., I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in the state of Connecticut (CT license #15933), and formerly held licenses in Massachusetts before moving. In Germany, I am a staatlich anerkannte Sozialarbeiterin, or state-recognized social worker. My credentials in each country are outlined here.How did you get your license/accreditation?
To obtain clinical licensure to do therapy in the U.S., I completed an approved clinical social work master's program, nearly 2,000 hours of supervised clinical internships, over 3,500 hours of post-graduate supervised clinical experience, and over 100 hours of one-to-one supervision from an experienced clinical social worker, and passed a rigorous clinical exam. To obtain state recognition as a social worker in Germany, my foreign degrees and training were assessed and established as equivalent to German degrees, then I completed additional coursework on social work in Germany and passed an exam. In Germany, I work as a psychological counselor and social worker.What exactly is the difference between what you do and what a psychotherapist does in Germany?
As a psychological counselor and social worker, I offer services best suited for people interested in self-reflection, gaining insight, navigating challenging situations in their life, grappling with "big questions" like identity and belonging, coping with stress from the social/political climate, and finding resources to help improve their lives, for example. I do not offer "medical" psychotherapy, diagnose people, or provide "treatment" for psychiatric illnesses in counseling.
FAQ: counseling
Who should do online counseling?
Online counseling is a wonderful option for talking through difficult experiences past and present, reflecting, building insight, learning and practicing new skills, and figuring out how to get out of unhelpful patterns and move toward the life you want to be living—all with a trained, experienced professional. It's private and convenient, too—you can get support without even leaving your couch!Who should not do online counseling?
Online counseling not the right service for you if you're looking for medical treatment for a diagnosed/diagnosable mental illness—that's when you should seek out a "psychological psychotherapist", and it can really help to meet in-person, too. Online counseling is also not the right service if you're in crisis and need help right now, or you need help with immediate safety and stabilization—for example, if you're looking for a 24/7 support resource, or if you're in an active domestic violence situation. In those situations, safety is the first priority. If you're in crisis, please seek support immediately from your local crisis services so that you can get help quickly and be referred to other services that can help. You can also ask your primary care physician (Hausarzt/Hausärztin in Germany) if you aren't sure which service is most appropriate for you.Is counseling with you confidential and private?
Yes! Counseling with me is confidential, meaning I won't share information about you with someone else (unless you consent to it). There are very few exceptions to this, including serious concern for your safety or someone else's and legal orders related to serious crimes. Our sessions are not recorded. I also keep your personal information private and protected, in compliance with GDPR data protection laws. You'll find more information on privacy and confidentiality below.What ages do you work with?
I currently accept ages 18+, but I've worked extensively with youth and younger people. If you think I may be a good fit, contact me anyway!Do you do couples/relationship counseling or groups?
I only work with individuals at this time. I may do groups in 2026—let me know if you're interested in a specific theme!Do you only offer counseling in English?
I'm a native English speaker so I work mostly in English, but you're also welcome to switch to Spanish or German as needed. I've lived in Spanish- and German-speaking countries and have done counseling/educational work in both languages.How do we meet online?
We'll use a free, secure, confidential video-calling platform to meet. I send you the link before the session, you click it, and we're in a private meeting! No apps or sign-ups needed.Can we meet in person instead?
I can meet with clients in Jena, Germany for outdoor/"walk and talk" sessions. Walk-and-talk sessions can be a wonderful option for folks who find it easier to talk while moving or out in nature. If you live in Jena, Weimar, Erfurt, Leipzig, or other nearby cities in Thüringen or Sachsen, this may be a nice option for you! We may also be able to arrange a home visit if you have accessibility issues.How long will we meet for?
We will meet for about 55 minutes long, which includes our session time plus a few minutes to schedule the next session.How often will we meet?
I generally meet with clients weekly, and we meet longer-term—relational work takes time.When are you available to meet?
I am available for sessions on weekdays after 10:00 CET. I'm pretty flexible and am often happy to meet later in the afternoon or evening.I don't live in Germany. Can you work with me?
Most likely yes! But it depends on how counseling is regulated in your country. If you live outside of Germany, please message me what country you live in before booking your free intro call and I'll look into it.
Note for U.S. residents: I warmly welcome clients from Connecticut, where I offer therapy as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Check out your own FAQ section here.
FAQ: insurance, fees, policies
Do you work with insurance?
No, I am private pay only.Are there any benefits to not using insurance for mental health support?
Yes, there are many! More privacy—there's no reporting, so insurance companies won't see your most sensitive information, and you won't have a diagnosis in your health records forever. No permission needed—you don't need to wait for approval from a company to start taking care of your mental health; no external limits on how long you can be in counseling. More flexibility—you aren't limited to the specific therapy modalities that insurance covers. More availability—you can more easily find someone who speaks your language and understands your culture, with much shorter wait times. And... no struggling with language barriers.How much does it cost to do counseling with you? What are your fees?
My standard rate is 120 Euro for one 50-minute session. As a trained clinical social worker, I also do consultations as needed in order to best help you or your family—these are pro-rated. Read more about my fees here.I can't afford your standard fee. Do you offer a sliding scale/reduced rate?
Please click here for the most up-to-date information on sliding fee scale options.How do I pay for sessions? When?
I accept payment by bank transfer, or by Stripe when bank transfer is truly not possible. Payment for each scheduled session must be received before the start of the session. You'll receive an invoice from me in advance of each session so that you can pay on time. Easy!What is your cancellation policy?
Please contact me at least 24 hours before our scheduled session to cancel or reschedule, and your payment will be applied to the next session. If you cancel with less than 24 hours before the session, the fee is the cost of the session. But—we're all human! If there is an emergency or you're very sick, please contact me before the session starts and I may waive the fee or reschedule with you at my discretion.How about refunds?
All of my services are non-refundable. You'll find more info on this in the consent forms I'll send you.
FAQ: privacy
I'm concerned about privacy, especially online. How do you protect my personal information?
Privacy and protection of personal information is very important to me both personally and professionally. As mentioned: no reporting to health insurance companies or third parties. I follow GDPR data protection laws to ensure that sensitive information is protected, meaning that I use GDPR-compliant platforms for sharing and storing private health information, and you are made aware of the risks of communicating in other ways. I also try to minimize the use of electronic health record software to manage clients' personal information in order to minimize the risk of security breaches and keep your information out of companies' hands. I keep paper progress notes. I do not use AI for anything counseling-related.What is GDPR?
The General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR) is an EU regulation that addresses information privacy in the EU and EEA—basically a data protection law that applies to anyone processing the personal data (sensitive information) of individuals in the EU or EEA. You can learn more about GDPR compliance in my privacy policy on this website. You'll read more about it in the consent agreement and privacy policy form that I ask you to complete before our first session.What about video-calls and emails?
The video-conferencing and email platforms I use are encrypted and GDPR-compliant also, but there is always some risk to sharing sensitive information online.
FAQ: how to get started
How can I start working with you?
It starts with a free introductory call: first you book a 30-minute intro call here, then we meet and see if we're a good fit. We can schedule our first counseling session at the end of that call if you're ready, or you can think about it and follow up with me. If you choose to move forward with me, I'll send you a form to fill out online and the invoice. Then we meet!How do I book this free intro call?
Easily! Click here for all your options—you can message me on the website or email me. Just tell me 3 dates and times you'd be available to chat and I'll write you back to confirm. You can also reach out to me through any of the therapist directories I'm a part of, including It's Complicated, the International Therapist Directory, Inclusive Therapists, and OutCare (international directory of LGBTQ-affirming providers).I need help right now though. What do I do?
I am not a crisis provider but I want you to get help! If you're having an emergency or need help immediately, please call your local emergency services, like 112 in Germany or 911 in the U.S. Or click here to search for crisis helplines by country. Please stay safe.Where else can I find you online?
As mentioned above, you'll also find my profiles on directories including It's Complicated, the International Therapist Directory, Inclusive Therapists, and OutCare. See you there!
FAQ: additional services
Besides counseling, do you offer other services?
Yes! You can find an overview of all of my services at mollytoomey.com. I offer psych support at events and sometimes do community trainings/workshops. I also offer support for people who are interested in moving to Germany or are already living in Germany and are looking for some guidance on the process. I went through this experience myself and decided to use my lessons learned to help others! I specialize in mental health professionals (social workers, therapists, counselors) as well as LGBTQIA+ folks looking to leave the U.S. Read more here.I'm interested in something you aren't currently offering. Can I contact you anyway?
Please do! My skills and knowledge extend beyond what I have listed on this website, and I am always interested in new ventures and challenges. If I can't provide what you're looking for or I'm not the best fit, I'll do my best to refer you to someone who is.
Legal note:
My services in Germany are private and non-medical. I do not provide psychotherapy, diagnose mental disorders, or treat illness under German law. I offer my services as a psychosocial counselor in the field of psychologische Beratung (psychological counseling). I am not a psychologische Psychotherapeutin or a Heilpraktikerin für Psychotherapie.
fee policies
fees
SessionsMy standard fee is $175 per session.
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ConsultsConsults are billed at a pro-rated fee based on the session cost.As a counselor and trained social worker, I often work systemically. This means I may work with other people or systems my client is involved with (with their consent!). This could be a "collateral consult", like a 30-minute phone call with their doctor, for example, or a "family consult", like a 20-minute check-in with the parent of a teenage client.These consultations are generally billed in 15-minute chunks at a rate based on the session fee. They are discussed in advance, so there are no surprises.
sliding fee scale
When possible, I offer a reduced fee for people experiencing temporary financial hardship (unemployed or severely underemployed).
Any fee reductions are determined on a case-by-case basis after we chat. Please email me about any financial limitations before booking an intro call.In order to continue to show up fully and effectively for my work with clients, I charge rates that allow me to sustain myself. Please reflect honestly on your financial situation before requesting a fee lower than my standard fee.This graphic by Alexis J. Cunningfolk may help you assess your situation.
fee policies
fees
SessionsMy standard fee is 120 € per session.
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ConsultsConsults are billed at a pro-rated fee based on the session cost.As a counselor and trained social worker, I often work systemically. This means I may work with other people or systems my client is involved with (with their consent!). This could be a "collateral consult", like a 30-minute phone call with their doctor, for example, or a "family consult", like a 20-minute check-in with the parent of a teenage client.These consultations are generally billed in 15-minute chunks at a rate based on the session fee. They are discussed in advance, so there are no surprises.
sliding fee scale
I may offer a reduced fee for:
People experiencing temporary financial hardship (unemployed or severely underemployed)
People who live in lower-income countries, make local wages, and would be unable to afford therapy at the rates typical for Germany.
Any fee reductions are determined on a case-by-case basis after we chat. Please email me about any financial limitations before booking an intro call.In order to continue to show up fully and effectively for my work with clients, I charge rates that allow me to sustain myself. Please reflect honestly on your financial situation before requesting a fee lower than my standard fee.This graphic by Alexis J. Cunningfolk may help you assess your situation.
specialization
migration & culture
Are you grappling with life as an immigrant, expat, or cultural outsider?People deal with changes every day, but some changes shake the foundations of who we are and how we're used to living. You may be adjusting to a new country or a new culture after a big international move, grappling with culture shock and making sense of life as an immigrant/expat, or struggling with being the "perpetual foreigner". Perhaps you relocated your family or moved to a new city or country for a job or university. Whatever it is—your life has changed, and you need some stable ground.I can support you with:
grappling with the stress, anxiety, uncertainty, and instability that accompany big life changes
coping with cultural adjustment and culture shock
figuring out your changing identity and finding a sense of belonging
navigating intercultural friendships, relationships, and employers
recognizing and accepting your feelings and experiences
building a support system—with other people and within yourself
I've been supporting migrants and the children of migrants for nearly two decades, and am an immigrant and foreigner myself. I'd love to support you on your own journey to finding solid ground.
specialization
gender, sexual & relationship diversity
Are you someone whose gender, sexual identity, or sexual or relationship practices fall outside the mainstream?You may be grappling with identity, belonging, and (non)conformity as someone who is LGBTQIA+ or someone with "alternative" sexual or relationships. You might be a "late bloomer" discovering your queerness or interest in kink later in life. Isolation, rejection, discrimination, or the political climate might weigh on you. Perhaps you're just starting to question, or coming to realizations that you know are about to shake up your life and relationships. Or you feel torn between different identities, communities, or desires, and are struggling to feel legitimate or find your place.Whatever it is—it's a lot! And it's hard to find someone who understands and doesn't judge or put you into rigid boxes.I can support you with:
wrestling with big questions about your values and desires, how you see yourself and want to be seen, who and how you love (or want to!)
trying on new identities, labels, desires, and self-expression—without being judged or policed for "saying the wrong thing"
recognizing how social and cultural pressures and expectations are affecting you mentally and physically
juggling how to live authentically while staying safe and maintaining the relationships or things in life that are most important to you
building resilience in the face of a frightening political climate
discovering internal strengths and outside resources
building self-trust, self-acceptance, and self-love; accepting care
finding community and connection
I absolutely love working with folks who are grappling with these topics and providing a welcoming, affirming, and authentic space for them. Whatever's on your mind, you'll find acceptance and space to explore it with me.
specialization
neurodivergence
Are you someone who "ticks differently" or is grappling with the challenges of being neurodivergent?You might be diagnosed (or self-diagnosed) as autistic, ADHD, AuDHD, or bipolar, and are trying to make sense of this new identity and new understanding of your past and present struggles. Perhaps you're struggling to accept this diagnosis or what it means for your life. Or you were late-diagnosed and feel struck by anger, grief, and loss. Maybe you're already well-versed in life as a neurodivergent person but still struggle with daily functioning, relationships, communication, self-esteem, or connecting and finding community in a way that feels good to you. Add society's expectations and a world that wasn't quite built for you and it can become overwhelming.I can support you with:
understanding what neurodivergence means for you and your life
grappling with your challenges or limitations—while leaning into your strengths and abilities
building awareness of your mind, body, and unique ways of thinking and feeling
identifying what you're feeling and thinking and expressing it—however feels best to you
navigating normative social dynamics and relationships
practicing communication and self-regulation in ways that work for you
forming authentic connections with others
breaking through painful isolation or finding community
I've worked with many neurodivergent folks and can relate to the struggles (and joys) myself. It is possible to not only survive, but thrive. Wherever you're at in your journey, I'd be honored to accompany you.
legal notices
Impressum (Legal Notice)
Diensteanbieter im Sinne des § 5 TMG:
Molly Toomey
Talstraße 38
07743 Jena
DeutschlandKontakt:
E-Mail: [email protected]
Kontaktformular: https://counselingwithmolly.com/#messageRechtsform:
Freiberuflerin (Kleinunternehmerin gemäß § 19 UStG)Streitbeilegung:
Wir sind nicht bereit oder verpflichtet, an Streitbeilegungsverfahren vor einer Verbraucherschlichtungsstelle teilzunehmen.
Datenschutzerklärung (Privacy Policy)
Last updated January 19, 2026This Privacy Notice for Molly Toomey ("we," "us," or "our"), describes how and why we might access, collect, store, use, and/or share ("process") your personal information when you use our services ("Services"), including when you:
- Visit our website at http://www.counselingwithmolly.com, http://www.mollytoomey.com, or any website of ours that links to this Privacy Notice
- Utilize the contact form on the website or link(s) on the website
- Contact us regarding information requests or provision of services, including psychosocial counseling to support mental health and wellness
- Engage with us in other related ways, including any marketing or eventsQuestions or concerns? Reading this Privacy Notice will help you understand your privacy rights and choices. We are responsible for making decisions about how your personal information is processed. If you do not agree with our policies and practices, please do not use our Services. If you still have any questions or concerns, please contact us at [email protected].
SUMMARY OF KEY POINTSThis summary provides key points from our Privacy Notice, but you can find out more details about any of these topics by clicking the link following each key point or by using our table of contents below to find the section you are looking for.What personal information do we process? When you visit, use, or navigate our Services, we may process personal information depending on how you interact with us and the Services, the choices you make, and the products and features you use. Learn more about personal information you disclose to us.Do we process any sensitive personal information? We do not collect sensitive personal information via the website. Any sensitive information collected will only occur in private sessions and/or via separate client forms, not through the website.Do we collect any information from third parties? We do not collect any information from third parties.How do we process your information? We process your information to provide, improve, and administer our Services, communicate with you, for security and fraud prevention, and to comply with law. We may also process your information for other purposes with your consent. We process your information only when we have a valid legal reason to do so. Learn more about how we process your information.In what situations and with which parties do we share personal information? We may share information in specific situations and with specific third parties. Learn more about when and with whom we share your personal information.How do we keep your information safe? We have adequate organizational and technical processes and procedures in place to protect your personal information. However, no electronic transmission over the internet or information storage technology can be guaranteed to be 100% secure, so we cannot promise or guarantee that hackers, cybercriminals, or other unauthorized third parties will not be able to defeat our security and improperly collect, access, steal, or modify your information. Learn more about how we keep your information safe.What are your rights? Depending on where you are located geographically, the applicable privacy law may mean you have certain rights regarding your personal information. Learn more about your privacy rights.How do you exercise your rights? The easiest way to exercise your rights is by visiting http://www.counselingwithmolly.com/#message or by contacting us directly per email. We will consider and act upon any request in accordance with applicable data protection laws.Want to learn more about what we do with any information we collect? Review the Privacy Notice in full.
TABLE OF CONTENTS
1. WHAT INFORMATION DO WE COLLECT?
2. HOW DO WE PROCESS YOUR INFORMATION?
3. WHAT LEGAL BASES DO WE RELY ON TO PROCESS YOUR PERSONAL INFORMATION?
4. WHEN AND WITH WHOM DO WE SHARE YOUR PERSONAL INFORMATION?
5. HOW LONG DO WE KEEP YOUR INFORMATION?
6. HOW DO WE KEEP YOUR INFORMATION SAFE?
7. DO WE COLLECT INFORMATION FROM MINORS?
8. WHAT ARE YOUR PRIVACY RIGHTS?
9. CONTROLS FOR DO-NOT-TRACK FEATURES
10. DO WE MAKE UPDATES TO THIS NOTICE?
11. HOW CAN YOU CONTACT US ABOUT THIS NOTICE?
12. HOW CAN YOU REVIEW, UPDATE, OR DELETE THE DATA WE COLLECT FROM YOU?
----------1. WHAT INFORMATION DO WE COLLECT?Personal information you disclose to us. In Short: We collect personal information that you provide to us. We collect personal information that you voluntarily provide to us when you express an interest in obtaining information about us or our products and Services, when you participate in activities on the Services, or otherwise when you contact us.Personal Information Provided by You. The personal information that we collect depends on the context of your interactions with us and the Services, the choices you make, and the products and features you use. The personal information we collect on our website may include the following: names; email addresses.Sensitive Information. We do not collect sensitive personal information via the website. Any sensitive information collected will only occur in private sessions and via separate client forms, not through the website.All personal information that you provide to us must be true, complete, and accurate, and you must notify us of any changes to such personal information.2. HOW DO WE PROCESS YOUR INFORMATION?In Short: We process your information to provide, improve, and administer our Services, communicate with you, for security and fraud prevention, and to comply with law. We may also process your information for other purposes with your consent.We process your personal information for a variety of reasons, depending on how you interact with our Services, including:To deliver and facilitate delivery of services to the user. We may process your information to provide you with the requested service.To respond to user inquiries/offer support to users. We may process your information to respond to your inquiries and solve any potential issues you might have with the requested service.To send administrative information to you. We may process your information to send you details about our products and services, changes to our terms and policies, and other similar information.3. WHAT LEGAL BASES DO WE RELY ON TO PROCESS YOUR INFORMATION?In Short: We only process your personal information when we believe it is necessary and we have a valid legal reason (i.e., legal basis) to do so under applicable law, like with your consent, to comply with laws, to provide you with services to enter into or fulfill our contractual obligations, to protect your rights, or to fulfill our legitimate business interests.The General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR) and UK GDPR require us to explain the valid legal bases we rely on in order to process your personal information. As such, we may rely on the following legal bases to process your personal information:Consent. We may process your information if you have given us permission (i.e., consent) to use your personal information for a specific purpose. You can withdraw your consent at any time. Learn more about withdrawing your consent.Performance of a Contract. We may process your personal information when we believe it is necessary to fulfill our contractual obligations to you, including providing our Services or at your request prior to entering into a contract with you.Legal Obligations. We may process or disclose personal information to comply with a legal obligation where required by law, such as in response to a binding order from a competent court or other public authority. In rare circumstances involving imminent and serious danger to life or health, or where required under specific child protection provisions of German social law, we may disclose information to appropriate authorities to prevent harm. Except in such narrowly defined situations, we maintain strict confidentiality and do not disclose personal information to law enforcement or third parties without your consent.4. WHEN AND WITH WHOM DO WE SHARE YOUR PERSONAL INFORMATION?Your personal information will not be shared with third parties.5. HOW LONG DO WE KEEP YOUR INFORMATION?In Short: We keep your information for as long as necessary to fulfill the purposes outlined in this Privacy Notice unless otherwise required by law.We will only keep your personal information for as long as it is necessary for the purposes set out in this Privacy Notice, unless a longer retention period is required or permitted by law (such as tax, accounting, or other legal requirements).When we have no ongoing legitimate business need to process your personal information, we will either delete or anonymize such information, or, if this is not possible (for example, because your personal information has been stored in backup archives), then we will securely store your personal information and isolate it from any further processing until deletion is possible.6. HOW DO WE KEEP YOUR INFORMATION SAFE?In Short: We aim to protect your personal information through a system of organizational and technical security measures.We have implemented appropriate and reasonable technical and organizational security measures designed to protect the security of any personal information we process. However, despite our safeguards and efforts to secure your information, no electronic transmission over the Internet or information storage technology can be guaranteed to be 100% secure, so we cannot promise or guarantee that hackers, cybercriminals, or other unauthorized third parties will not be able to defeat our security and improperly collect, access, steal, or modify your information. Although we will do our best to protect your personal information, transmission of personal information to and from our Services is at your own risk. You should only access the Services within a secure environment.7. DO WE COLLECT INFORMATION FROM MINORS?Our services are intended for adults aged 18+. We do not knowingly collect data from or market to children under 18 years of age.8. DO WE LINK TO EXTERNAL SERVICES?We may provide links to external services and resources, including but not limited to external links that direct you to external platforms such as: provider directories; external scheduling platforms for booking services including consultations; informational resources. The providers of those external services may collect personal information directly from you. Please refer to the privacy policies of any external service providers or platforms for details.9. WHAT ARE YOUR PRIVACY RIGHTS?In Short: In some regions, such as the European Economic Area (EEA), United Kingdom (UK), and Switzerland, you have rights that allow you greater access to and control over your personal information. You may request access, correction, or deletion of any personal information you provide via the Services at any time.In some regions (like the EEA, UK, and Switzerland), you have certain rights under applicable data protection laws. These may include the right (i) to request access and obtain a copy of your personal information, (ii) to request rectification or erasure; (iii) to restrict the processing of your personal information; (iv) if applicable, to data portability; and (v) not to be subject to automated decision-making. In certain circumstances, you may also have the right to object to the processing of your personal information. You can make such a request by contacting us by using the contact details provided in the section "HOW CAN YOU CONTACT US ABOUT THIS NOTICE?" below.We will consider and act upon any request in accordance with applicable data protection laws.If you are located in the EEA or UK and you believe we are unlawfully processing your personal information, you also have the right to complain to your Member State data protection authority or UK data protection authority.If you are located in Switzerland, you may contact the Federal Data Protection and Information Commissioner.Withdrawing your consent: If we are relying on your consent to process your personal information, you have the right to withdraw your consent at any time. You can withdraw your consent at any time by contacting us by using the contact details provided in the section "HOW CAN YOU CONTACT US ABOUT THIS NOTICE?" below.However, please note that this will not affect the lawfulness of the processing before its withdrawal nor, will it affect the processing of your personal information conducted in reliance on lawful processing grounds other than consent.If you have questions or comments about your privacy rights, you may email us at [email protected].10. DO WE MAKE UPDATES TO THIS NOTICE?In Short: Yes, we will update this notice as necessary to stay compliant with relevant laws.We may update this Privacy Notice from time to time. The updated version will be indicated by an updated "Revised" date at the top of this Privacy Notice. If we make material changes to this Privacy Notice, we may notify you either by prominently posting a notice of such changes or by directly sending you a notification. We encourage you to review this Privacy Notice frequently to be informed of how we are protecting your information.11. HOW CAN YOU CONTACT US ABOUT THIS NOTICE?If you have questions or comments about this notice, you may email us at [email protected] or contact us by post at:
Molly Toomey
Talstraße 38
Jena, Thüringen 07743
Germany12. HOW CAN YOU REVIEW, UPDATE, OR DELETE THE DATA WE COLLECT FROM YOU?Based on the applicable laws of your country, you may have the right to request access to the personal information we collect from you, details about how we have processed it, correct inaccuracies, or delete your personal information. You may also have the right to withdraw your consent to our processing of your personal information. These rights may be limited in some circumstances by applicable law. To request to review, update, or delete your personal information, please visit: http://www.counselingwithmolly.com/#message.